Emotional suffering can be crippling.
It’s a topic most of us go to enormous lengths to avoid, in favor of denial.
Because it’s easier. Because it exposes us. It exposes our vulnerability, and this leaves us feeling squeamish and weak.
Why is this so I wonder?
Is it fear? Is the general perception of emotional fragility one of instability or inadequacy?
It’s a shame, as these feelings are very much part of the human condition. Sometimes, all one needs to achieve emotional health, is to be heard and believed.
Forbidding free expression of these harmful energies is denying emotional liberty, resulting in sub optimal mental and physical health.
The quote below describes this detrimental human tendency.
The tendency to avoid problems and the emotional suffering inherent in them is the primary basis of all human mental illness.
Since most of us have this tendency to a greater or lesser degree, most of us are mentally ill to a greater or lesser degree, lacking complete mental health.
Some of us will go to quite extraordinary lengths to avoid our problems and the suffering they cause, proceeding far afield from all that is clearly good and sensible in order to try to find an easy way out, building the most elaborate fantasies in which to live, sometimes to the total exclusion of reality.
In the succinctly elegant words of Carl Jung;
‘Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering…..but the substitute itself ultimately becomes more painful than the legitimate suffering it was designed to avoid.
The neurosis itself becomes the biggest problem.
-M.Scott.Peck-From The Road Less Travelled.
Neurosis-‘A relatively mild personality disorder typified by excessive anxiety or indecision and a degree of social or interpersonal maladjustment’~Oxford Dictionary